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Two-fer! Two writing activities from our Write for You group!

Nobody Knows
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by Nancy Casey

“If I only knew…” That might be one of the most frequently spoken phrases in the English language.

Even when we think we know a lot, we always run into situations that might have turned out a lot less complicated if we had known more.

That can lead us to put pressure on ourselves about not knowing enough. We notice other people who seem to grasp so much more than we do. We forget that everybody knows a lot. We forget to notice how different people know different things.

We also forget that what we know will always be tiny compared to what we don’t know. This goes for everybody. The things we’ll never know will always outweigh the things that we do know.

Today, in your writing, celebrate all the things that nobody will ever know. Begin every sentence with the phrase, “Nobody will ever know…”

Here are some ways you can think about that:

  • There are many things in nature that nobody can know. How many worms? How much do all the fish weigh? People can guess, but nobody can say for certain.
  • Zillions of details from the past and from the lives of people who are no longer alive will never be known again. The colors of certain walls. Somebody’s favorite gloves.
  • All day, every day, famous and ordinary people are thinking thoughts that nobody else will ever know.
  • What kinds of things will we never know about the reality of a dog, a raven, or a rock?

We work hard to learn things. We want to know more. So we have to look at the world a little bit inside-out to concentrate on how much will never be known. Try to imagine that inside-out world as you slowly write, “Nobody will ever know…” Write down whatever pops into your head.

When you have finished writing, give your work a title. Be sure you have put the date on it somewhere as well. Here is an example of what a person could write.

Share Your Writing by Nancy Casey

The goal of “Write for You” is to give you ideas for using writing to make your life better in some way. It’s for you. That means that as long as you have some kind of a writing practice and write things that are pleasing and informative to you, you are succeeding. What makes it pleasing to you? What does it inform you about? You are the only one who can answer questions like that. The answers might turn out to be quite private.

At the same time, as you get more practice and start developing confidence in yourself, you might realize that others would find your writing interesting. You can decide to let others read it.

Here are some things to keep in mind about sharing your writing:

  • It’s natural to want to ask, “Is this any good?” You can answer that yourself! Yes, it’s good. If you like it, it’s good. Could you make it better? Maybe, if you feel like it. For now it’s good enough.
  • There’s a nervous rush of exposure that comes with sharing your writing. It’s normal to want people to say things that are reassuring to you. You hope for reactions that make you glad you shared the writing. The fact is, however, people usually don’t know what to say to someone about their writing, so don’t set your expectations about other people’s reactions too high.
  • Silence can be a very positive reaction, even though it feels awkward. It means the person is thinking. No matter what they say or don’t say, your writing made them think.
  • Make sure your writing practice remains something that you do for yourself. Continue to write with the intention of keeping the work private. Don’t think about sharing it until after it’s written. When you do share something, you can always change it to make it less private.

This blog has now stored up a year’s worth of weekly writing exercises that anyone can do at any time. Maybe you have done them all. Or some of them. Maybe you are about to start doing them now. If you would like to share what you’ve written for any of those exercises, you can put it in the comments section for that exercise in one of three ways:

  • Simply type it into the comments box.
  • Copy something you have typed a computer and paste it into the comments box.
  • Take a picture of what you have written and paste it into the comments box.

I have been using the third method. I take a picture of my writing each week and add it to this webpage. But that’s just mine. It would be more interesting to see yours.

Here is the list of all the exercises you could do. It would be nice to see what you wrote. Many thanks in advance to anyone who takes the trouble to share their work!

Before you dive into all the possibilities for sharing your writing, take a few moments to ground yourself with your writing practice. Get ready to write a page that is just for yourself. Settle in with your writing materials and look around you. Describe what you see. Start with the things that are closest to you and work your way out.

Nancy Casey has lived in Latah County for many years. She has taught writing classes at the Recovery Center and will return again in the spring of 2018. You can find more of her work here. If you would like her help with a writing project, large or small, email latahrecoverycenter@gmail.com for more information.

This Week at the Latah Recovery Center

The latest Recovery Radio broadcasts can now be found on I-Tunes! Look for Recovery Radio from KRFP.

Our annual fundraising breakfast is on the calendar. 3/28, 7am. Mayor Lambert will be the keynote speaker. WE NEED YOUR HELP AS A TABLE CAPTAIN helping us get people to the breakfast. If you can help email latahrecoverycenter@gmail.com, or call 208-883-1045.

Mark your calendar for this months special offerings!
Recovery Peer Volunteer Training pt.2. 1/25, 6-9pm. Prior participation in pt.1 required.
Bingo! 1/27, 4-8pm
January at the Latah Recovery Center
Alcoholics Anonymous Every day, noon
Positive Affirmations Mondays, 12-1
Life Skills Mondays, 5-6
Make Your Hobby Pay 1st Monday of month, 6-7
Refuge Recovery 420 E. 2nd St Mondays, 6
Resume Writing Monday, 1/15, 6:30
Yoga (Hosted by Moscow Yoga Ctr) Tuesdays 12:30-1:30
Chess w/Steve Tues and Thurs 5-6
Narcotics Anonymous-Womens Mtg (Open) Tuesdays and Fridays 6-7
Domestic Abuse Support Group Tuesdays 6-7
Art w/Alex Tuesdays 7-8
Prescription Addiction Support Group Tuesdays 7-8
Positive Affirmations Wednesdays 5-6
Families and Caregivers of Addicts Support Group Wednesdays 6-7
Recovery International: Mental Health Self-Help Wednesdays, 6:30-8
New Volunteer Orientation Thursdays 4-5
LAMI: Family Support Program 2nd Thurs of month 7-8:30
Recovery Peer Volunteer Training pts 1 and 2 (RSVPs Required) Thursdays 1/18 AND 1/25, 6-9
All Recovery Meeting Fridays 5-6
Movie/Games: Check website for listing Fridays 6:30-9
Bingo Saturday, 1/27 4-8
AA Speakers Meeting 3rd Saturday of month, 11-2:30
Learn How to Crochet & Calm Your Mind 4th Sat of month, 10-12
Trust Based Relational Intervention Parents Group Sunday 1/21, 2:30-5:30
Adult Children of Alcoholics, Women’s Meeting Sundays 6-7:30
Classes and Groups are ALWAYS FREE OR AT COST AND OPEN TO ALL.
RSVP LatahRecoveryCenter@gmail.com Bolded Date=Regular offering. Plain text=Special offering for month.
Need an understanding person to talk to? We have Recovery Peer Volunteers here to help you in recovery from mental health and addiction issues all hours of operation. We are here to help!

 

This Week at the Latah Recovery Center

Here is the latest from our writing group: https://latahrecoverycenter.org/2018/01/16/write-for-you-setting-goals-pt-3/

Mark your calendar for this months special offerings!
Recovery Peer Volunteer Training Pts. 1 and 2 1/18 and 25, 6-9pm. This is the class for people wanting to learn how to help coach others as they are dealing with mental health and/or addiction issues. Anyone wishing to help coach at The Center is required to take this class. We need 10 people to make this happen, so RSVPs are required by 1/17 to latahrecoverycenter@gmail.com. SIGN UP NOW!
Bingo! 1/27, 4-8pm
Trust Based Relational Intervention Parents Group starts on 1/21, 2:30-5:30
January at the Latah Recovery Center
Alcoholics Anonymous Every day, noon
Positive Affirmations Mondays, 12-1
Life Skills Mondays, 5-6
Make Your Hobby Pay 1st Monday of month, 6-7
Refuge Recovery 420 E. 2nd St Mondays, 6
Resume Writing Monday, 1/15, 6:30
Yoga (Hosted by Moscow Yoga Ctr) Tuesdays 12:30-1:30
Chess w/Steve Tues and Thurs 5-6
Narcotics Anonymous Tuesdays and Fridays 6-7
Domestic Abuse Support Group Tuesdays 6-7
Art w/Alex Tuesdays 7-8
Prescription Addiction Support Group Tuesdays 7-8
Positive Affirmations Wednesdays 5-6
Families and Caregivers of Addicts Support Group Wednesdays 6-7
Recovery International: Mental Health Self-Help Wednesdays, 6:30-8
New Volunteer Orientation Thursdays 4-5
LAMI: Family Support Program 2nd Thurs of month 7-8:30
Recovery Peer Volunteer Training pts 1 and 2 (RSVPs Required) Thursdays 1/18 AND 1/25, 6-9
All Recovery Meeting Fridays 5-6
Movie/Games: Check website for listing Fridays 6:30-9
Bingo Saturday, 1/27 4-8
AA Speakers Meeting 3rd Saturday of month, 11-2:30
Learn How to Crochet & Calm Your Mind 4th Sat of month, 10-12
Trust Based Relational Intervention Parents Group Sunday 1/21, 2:30-5:30
Adult Children of Alcoholics, Women’s Meeting Sundays 6-7:30
Classes and Groups are ALWAYS FREE OR AT COST AND OPEN TO ALL.
RSVP LatahRecoveryCenter@gmail.com Bolded Date=Regular offering. Plain text=Special offering for month.
Need an understanding person to talk to? We have Recovery Peer Volunteers here to help you in recovery from mental health and addiction issues all hours of operation. We are here to help!

Write for You: Setting Goals Pt. 3

by Nancy Casey

Before you write goals for yourself, think about what you want for yourself in your life. (Here are some writing exercises that will help you do that.)

Then you must list the obstacles that stand between you and what you want. When you write out the actual goal, you are making a promise to yourself to do something very specific that will help you overcome one obstacle. (Here are some suggestions for how to do that.)

When you write a goal, you also decide how often you will take time to review your progress and evaluate how things are working.

What is evaluation?

People often confuse “evaluation” with finding fault. Nothing could be further from the truth. The word “value” is at the heart of evaluation. The central question of the evaluation process is: “What is the value of this to me?” You can write about that in two parts. The first part is note-taking, the second part is a Pep Talk.

Write down notes about each goal

  1. Review the goal. What, exactly, did you promise yourself that you would do?
  2. Recall why you set the goal. What do you want that this goal will help you get? Why is this valuable and important to you?
  3. Measure your success. What, exactly, did you do in order to meet your goal? Tell everything you did right. Did your actions make anything different or better?
  4. Consider your failures. Nobody is perfect all of the time. Where do you think you fell short? What extra obstacles got in your way? Do you want to change this goal a little bit?

Write Yourself a Pep Talk

When you write yourself a Pep Talk, you take on the voice and personality of the person who understands you the best and believes in you the most. Write your Pep Talk as if you are writing a letter. Here are some things that you can discuss with yourself.

  1. Describe the best parts of what you did and congratulate yourself for doing them. Give yourself extra congratulations for anything that was hard.
  2. Remind yourself why you are doing this. Refresh your memory about what you want and why it is valuable to you.
  3. Point out at least one thing that has changed and why that change is an improvement.
  4. Look ahead to the future with this goal. Predict what will be smooth. Give warnings and encouragement about obstacles that are ahead.
  5. Set a date and time for your next evaluation session.

Make evaluation part of your comfort system

Your comfort system consists of all the things that you do to rest, refresh, and renew yourself. When you take time to notice the value of the things that you do, you deepen your understanding of yourself and the meaning of your life. This can be very private. It is also a reason to celebrate yourself.

Nancy Casey has lived in Latah County for many years. She has taught writing classes at the Recovery Center and will return again in the spring of 2018. You can find more of her work here. If you would like her help with a writing project, large or small, email latahrecoverycenter@gmail.com for more information.

Write for You: Setting Goals Pt. 2

by Nancy Casey

People set goals in order to meet the challenges that stand between them and what they want.

As you begin to set your goals, it’s a good idea to give some careful thought to all the things that you want and all the things that are standing in your way. Here are some ideas for doing that.

List the challenges you face.

List every challenge that you have. Include verything that’s standing in the way of what you want. Make the list as long as you can. You might even add to it later.

Write one goal.

Pick out one of the challenges on your list. What is the smallest thing you can do to take on that challenge? Set a goal for that one little thing. Write it down. Here’s how:

  1. Say exactly what you are going to do. Make it specific. It must be easy to tell whether you have done this thing or not. When you use verbs such as walk, speak, read, set the alarm, eat, sing, go to class, or find out, you can be clear about what you must do. Words like improve, try, understand, or deal with can indeed reflect what you are striving for, but they are too spongy for you to say exactly when you succeed.
  2. Set a quantity. 10 pages. One hour. Two questions. Around the block. Use some kind of quantity that will help you know exactly how much is enough for you to meet your goal.
  3. Say when you are going to do this thing. You could set an exact time. You might say “In the mornings…” Maybe you would say, “On Tuesday…” Many people set goals that begin, “Just for today…” Try to be as specific and realistic as you can.
  4. Set a time frame for evaluating yourself. How often will you pause and take stock of how you are doing? Each day? Once a week? Starting out with a time frame that is short can help you stay focused. If the time frame is too long, your goal will be in danger of fizzling away.

One goal per challenge

Write one goal for every challenge that you face. Only one goal. There will be plenty of other steps to take, but it all starts with the first one. Write the goal for the first step and don’t worry about the rest yet.

Is this possible?

Consider the goals you have laid out in front of you. How much time and effort will all of this take? Imagine exactly how you will fit all of these things in your life. Is it really practical? Are you secretly counting on miracles?

Fiddle with your goals until you are sure it’s possible to achieve them all. You might need to make some goals a little bit smaller. Perhaps you will set some of the goals aside for now. You could mark them “Soon, I hope” or simply “Later.”

Evaluate as you go

At the end of the time frame you have set in Step 4 above, it is important to evaluate how you are doing. You might be pleased with the way things are going, or you might decide to make some changes. Next week’s post will discuss how to think about that.

Nancy Casey has lived in Latah County for many years. She has taught writing classes at the Recovery Center in the past and will return again in the spring of 2018. You can find more of her work here. If you would like her help with a writing project, large or small, email latahrecoverycenter@gmail.com for more information.